Modest Means

mod·es·ty

/ˈmädəstē/

noun

~the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities.

~the quality of being relatively moderate, limited, or small in amount, rate, or level.

~behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency. 

~the quality of behaving and especially dressing in ways that do not attract sexual attention.

Even before I was married or had children, modesty has been a goal for my home and family.  As I have learned more through the years, modesty has become more than a mere matter of covering skin or concealing underwear:  modesty is an essential characteristic of a whole person's identity as a disciple of Jesus Christ.

There have been people throughout my life whom I have wished to emulate.  I have noticed that modesty in all its manifestations characterizes each person for whom I have had lasting admiration.  The way they speak and dress and treat others shows love through courtesy and respect -- starting with quiet confidence and the elegance of self-respect.  This is at the heart of modesty.

At the moment, I have three teenaged daughters. Like everyone, I see fashion trends and know my goals to help them dress, groom, and behave modestly are not easy to accomplish with what is commonly and consistently offered; but I also know from experience that -- with effort -- the worthy goal of modesty is possible.  Together we are learning all the time what modesty means and ways to better achieve it in our lives.

 (Definitions combined from Merriam-Webster and Google online dictionaries.  Photos courtesy of sxc.hu.)